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FYI: Binding Tips

My most popular post (by FAR) is 10 reasons that chest binding sucks balls. And with very good reason – the topic of binding is one that is widely searched and researched and discussed among transguys, genderqueers, androgynes, drag kings and all sorts of female-bodied, masculine-identified people. People always want to know how others do [...]

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FYI: My Story – Why I Started T

I know there are a lot of videos in this series, but wow! There’s so much of Kaden‘s story that I identify with…

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Daily Coolness: Blogapalooza

Kyle, from over at Butchtastic, created an Ah-MAY-Zing list of “Butch, Genderqueer, Genderfluid, Genderfuck and Trans Blogs to watch out for“ Seriously. It’s the most comprehensive, detailed list that I’ve seen — complete with blog AND Twitter links. Check it out… seriously. Go. Now. It’s an impressive resource to be sure. I’ve already added at [...]

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Daily Coolness: NYT + “Answers About Transgender Issues”

Big thanks to Mel over at Decidedly Obscure Human Complaints for the heads-up on this amazing NYT article. From Dr. Laura Erickson-Schroth’s NYT bio: This week Dr. Laura Erickson-Schroth, who is working on “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves,” a resource guide for transgender and other gender-variant people, covering health, legal issues, cultural and social questions, history [...]

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Personal: Visibility Among Lesbians

So, I hung out a couple of nights this week at a popular lesbian(ish) bar here in town, and wow… it really made me FEEL like a lesbian —err, rather, it’s reminded me that I LOOK like a lesbian (duh, right? I know… I mean, up until fairly recently** I’d been living my life as [...]

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Personal: “Hey Girl!”

Growing up I knew that I was different from the other kids – even before I knew that words like homosexual, butch, queer or transgender existed. I just knew that I didn’t quite… fit. Now that I’m 34 and not building roads with the boys in the sandbox or trying to impress the girls with how [...]

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Personal: I wish…

Sometimes I wish I’d just been born male… or female – or “straight”… non-queer… WHATEVER. As long as it was at least, like, 90% “something” and without question. Of course, then I remind myself that SURELY there’s a reason that *this* is my journey. That this fucked-up mess of gender and sexuality is all part of [...]

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Daily Coolness: Dapper Q

DapperQ is for anyone who wants to make any element of men’s fashion truly their own but it’s also for anyone who aspires to deeper levels of personal authenticity. From snazzy, buttoned-up butches and gentlemanly transguys to masculine chic, gender-bending women of ALL “labels” — DapperQ is indeed ALL about transgressing men’s fashion. Susan Herr, [...]

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Daily Coolness: Tumblriffic!

Tooooot, tooot! Hop on the Tumblr train!! (some of these are nsfw) In this age of Twitter accounts, status updates and instant internet gratification – it makes sense that Tumblogs would be one of the most popular and fastest growing blogging mediums available. In case you’re unfamiliar with Tumblr — my good friend, Wikipedia, defines [...]

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Personal: “Letting Go of ‘Butch’”

You know, I really want to document/vent/discuss my experience from the other night, but I’m still struggling with the writing process for whatever reason… It’s like all of my thoughts are stuck inside my head, and I either end up rambling or can’t quite figure out what I want to say or how I feel… [...]

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